First off, I’d like to say that you can plan your birth all you want, but your body and your baby are completely unpredictable. “We plan, and God laughs” is spot-on! Proverbs 19:21 says, “Many are the plans in a man’s heart, but it is the Lord’s purpose that prevails”. So, instead of naming our birth plan “Birth Plan”, I decided “Sique Family Birth Wishes” was best.
When our doula told us about a client she’d had in the past writing up a 21-page SINGLE SPACED document as her birth plan, Cesar and I couldn’t help but laugh! But as I sat there at 35 weeks pregnant typing mine up… I understood where that woman was coming from. I got to 3 pages, double spaced when I realized yeah, this is not going to work. I instead opted to buy a simplified birth plan from a very talented artist on Etsy who had been doing this for years. Our doula said the best way to ensure your birth wishes are remembered and respected in birth is to provide short & simplified bullet points, and provide visual aids. So that we did.
I printed and laminated FOUR copies of our birth wishes because our doula told us about a birth she attended where only two copies were made and BOTH were lost. When it came time to get serious in the 2nd stage of labor, no one could remember what she wanted and she was too busy in “labor land” to answer what she thought were “stupid questions”. Having gone from 4 cm dilated to 10 cm dilated in 3 short hours, I can absolutely relate. So, my husband had his copy, my mom had her copy, my midwives took their copy with them every time they left the room, and the nurses kept a copy of it at the nurses station. There was NO way anyone could come into my room with anything less than the knowledge of what I wanted for our labor/delivery. And every single thing on our birth wishes list, I got! Well, except for the no IV/hep lock because of the whole gestational hypertension thing. And the whole positive for GBS (Group B Strep) thing requiring antibiotics. But everything else was granted, no problem at all!
My birth was everything I had ever hoped for. My midwives and nurses gave me the experience of my dreams. Sure, we didn’t get to go into labor at home- we were induced- but it’s all part of doing what’s best for mom and baby. I had fun during labor, and it was such a high for me afterwards! I was jittery and just FULL of energy. I’m grateful for such a positive birth experience and can’t wait for a different experience with the next baby. Labor amnesia is actually real, I am absolutely proof of that!
If you have any questions about planning your birth or what any of the things listed on my birth wishes mean, feel free to shoot me a message on Instagram and I’d be more than happy to answer them for you. Or point you in the direction of our doula who really helped us understand the importance of a birth plan!
As always, thank you for reading and see you next time!