Marriage Appreciation

Every morning, my husband and I officially wake up at 5:00 am and go downstairs to begin journaling, eat breakfast, pack lunch, and make our plan for the day. I say “officially” because obviously we already wake up every 2-3 hours to change Avery’s diaper, feed her, and put her back down to bed. Advantages of breastfeeding!

Avery after a 1am feed before putting her back down in her crib

So after we do the 4:30am-5am feed/diaper change, Cesar will start getting ready for work while I go back into our room to pump for 15 minutes. Yes, I still pump after feeding Avery because I have been granted the blessing of overproduction! Sometimes she drains one side, but most of the time I’ll get 3-4 ounces from the side she did not feed from and 1-2 ounces from the side I fed her on. After pumping, Cesar will usually already be downstairs journaling when I’m coming down to put my milk up, combine the prior night’s milk in the storage bags to put into the freezer, and wash my pump supplies.

Washing my Medela In Style parts and bottles with my Boon bottle brush

After eating breakfast, Cesar and I have our short conversation about the things that need to be done that day. We start with housework that needs to be done (yes, my husband works full time and I am a stay at home mom, but we have always agreed on a division of labor because we do not believe in gender roles), meal plans or groceries, and then we finish by stemming off into what each of us has to do individually (his projects at work, my blogging, my selling on Facebook, his stocks, and more). By this time, he has already journaled, I have eaten and packed his lunch, and now he is ready to walk out the door. We kiss goodbye, wish each other a great and productive day, then I lock the door behind him. At this point I have begun my own journaling.

In my journal next to my to-do list for the day, I write 10 things that I am grateful for. I have noticed that in every single entry, I am grateful for 4 of the same things every single day.

Number 1: My mom

Number 2: My husband

Number 3: My daughter

Number 4: My family’s financial security

I posted this picture of Cesar and I because it goes to show that we take care of each other. We support each other on every new goal and challenge the other when it’s needed in order to make this happen.

I love the fact that these four things are consistent themes in my daily life. More than anything, I find myself consistently appreciating the foundation of Cesar and I’s marriage. The love, respect, support, and affection we give each other is the basis of everything we do and there’s so much of it that it overflows into our roles as Avery’s parents as well!

I love my daughter more than ANYTHING on this entire planet, but my husband is a close second. Like right there behind Avery. If you know me personally, you know that I love so hard. We’ve been officially married for less than a year, but we had a common law marriage for a year before that, so we’ve been in love for quite some time now. I can’t imagine my life without Cesar and marriage for us has been no walk in the park or anything like that, but it’s work absolutely worth doing!

Thank you for reading, we’ll see you next time!

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